Tuesday, April 25, 2017

The Burden of Perfection

It's not easy to be me. An excerpt from the lyrics of Five for Fighting -- Superman. Sounds ridiculous, a tall tale, too good to be true, right?
Well, let me tell you this what, my personal answer for it would be no.

I suffer from depression. Or so I would like to deny. I kept on brainwashing and hypnotizing myself, trying to make my own body and mind believe that this is just a prolonged exposure to demotivating circumstances. Just a happenstance of a surplus of negativity.

But you know the most difficult part of having an extended duration of depressive moods? Being perfect. All my life, I have always been seen as being flawless. A natural genius. A nimble body. Flexibility in all circumstances. Fast and over achiever. My muscles get toned from only a few workouts that spans over days whilst others would need months just to burn that fat out of their bodies. Understanding a foreign concept and theory took me minutes when others would require weeks in order to be able to comprehend just a glimmer of its introduction.

People come flocking to me, asking for advises. I provide and offer consultation. To them, I am that cool older brother who is and will always be there to lend a shoulder and an ear to listen to their problems and help solve them. I am that magic medicine and doctor and shaman who is capable of solving practically anything thrown unto me.

But it's difficult. Especially when I'm exposed to a series of demotivating cases and stories like this. Who should I talk to? Who should I consult? Who do I share my problems with? Nobody. Or, even if there is, it would be the three people of me, myself, and I. People won't even believe that I'm currently suffering from depression. Hell, even I refuse to believe it. I reject that notion, that idea, all the time. I'm perfectly fucking fine, god damn it. I need no therapy, I need no counselling. Fuck those psychologists and their fake ass sharing session, yielding practically zero results. Zero fucks. I got better fucks from watching bestial porn, mind you.

But, ahh, there it is. There's the pride in me restricting me. Yet again. It restraints me from counselling to people. From reaching out for help.

Boy, oh boy, this sure is difficult.

But she saw past all of it, though. Saw through me. Knew my weakness, amidst all my strengths.
"By any chance, are you suffering from depression?"
Fuck. So you knew afterall.

Monday, March 27, 2017

No. Please. Eunice. Where are you.
It's getting to me again. I need to talk to you. Why can't I find your contact anywhere?
I need some pep talk. Your pep talk I need your pep talk.

I'm starting to feel really detached from reality now. You remember that feeling when you have to return to reality after finishing a novel or watching a movie? I can't feel that. I almost can't feel that anymore. I didn't feel it yesterday, or the day before yesterday. I didn't feel it this evening.

Eunice. Help. Please.
I couldn't even go for two consecutive days with workout now. After a productive day with workout, then I will see myself facing a week of going back to this again.

Seriously, Eu, I thought that I should talk to you, but then I couldn't find your contact, and then I found out that you also have left the groupchat.

You're the only one I've ever felt comfortable talking about my depression problems with.

Thursday, February 16, 2017

penasaran. tulis baru la.

so, 16/02. thursday. almost friday now. midnight.
apparently everything was supposed to be work-your-ass off and then reset your body clock
but some motherfather burnt trashes, prompting me to nap
kemarin malam allnighternya sebenanrya tergolong cukup efektif sih, headache memang expeccted, tapi dampaknya uda so much less significnat compared to previous allnighters. even the sompo japan class was very.. positive.
anyway, napped.
terus sekarang balik lagi malamnya gabisa tidur. fml, khan?
tried the recipe, tried the weightless marconi group music, terus sharing session.
daemonev, raf, my past. hahaha.
im getting flashbacks.
at one point, the conversation was like - ever imagined what would happen if ecam wasnt banned? or if hilyah or kalvin didnt throw that
for all i know the 2014 team could be me and those lovebirds
i wouldnt have been.. troulbed, so to speak the least.
raf: yeah, right, ga bakalan terlibat sama sarah, not yara either, not tiffany either.
terus dhian datang.
oh shit youre right, hahahahaha.
if god has palnned, there is no getting way out from this.. plan of pendewasaan.
ah, anyway, wth. cant sleep. gonna rub one out i guess.


____________________



gini ya
friday was perfect -- so productive, exercises, and research, and forcing to work
saturday was shit. even for a rest day. so shit.
sunday, is kind of shit, meskipun paginya was so great, tapi masuk ke pajak beruang yeah, well that happened
but not without results, at least you know how the aura is kind of conflicting iwth your.. god. or whatsoever lha. yg di phoenix itu.
monday was shit again, nunggu kabar2 job dr nicky itu menyebabkan ketidakjelasan yg membahana hingga sampai ke.. ah whatever the fuck la
tuesday was actually kind of ok; bangun pagi, gabisa tetidur, terpaksa olahraga, olahraga made me focus on doing nicky job, terus in the end when akhirnya jobnya uda kelar setelah siangnya ngajar sompo, mati listrik, i olahraga lagi
actually only shit again nya cuma a little bit on the night setelah kembali kena jerat sama facebook dan youtube

wednesday, here i fucking am. pln khonthol. i am not supposed to use this for rest day.
pagi sampai siang tidur, terus makan, terus tidur lagi sampai sore ini sewaktu mau ngajar.

thursday. 23/2.
hey, it was so.. productive.
from waking up early to working out to a quick lesson plan to the productive session of fixing my linkedin CV at sompo...
up until to the point where i am getting the urge to be distracted after having bpk lunch.

and now today it's 26/02. sunday.
khan2. betulan khan. setelah urge to be distracted itu, betulan.
it goes from facebook. to youtube. to 9gag. and then to porn. and then back to either one of those motherfucking retarded devil cycles agian.
i shouldve just watched dr strange back then, you know, brew a cuppa coffee and then get distracted for a while.
at least it doestn serve permanent effect towards the cycle of depression
wanna know what happens next?
friday jadi rest day, fucking retarded.
siangnya memang ada sempat terbangun sebentar, then tried to go to settle inhaler sompo urus kunci gembok phoenix etc etc -- ga ada satupun yg beres.
malamnya, perubahan bioritme tubuh.
guess what? sabtu juga jadi demikian. cuma bangun setelah diajak mau makan siang.
and then today, sunday, again still juga those retarded vicious cycle. cuma terbangun setelah terpaksa mau pergi gerak ngajar.

i am not going to fall to this again next week.
come on! productive week next week! jia you!

____________________

hi.
erm.
shit, i guess?
27/2, monday, shit.
28/2, tuesday, terbangun, yes. tapi kemudian tidur lagi jam 8-11
no, bitch. ada rabu abu di pagi harinya itu. makanya selasa malamnya you decide that things just leave it to mom.
1/3, wednesday, terbangun, yes, tapi ga olahraga AND IT FUCKING HAPPENED AGAIN
thursday, friday
oh well. ada pesta nikahan isrok octa on saturday dan ada janji mau ketemu erica ntar.

you know the 4/3 saturday? i kinda danced with death. and won. narrowly.
kinda made me grateful though. i love my bike. and.. im indebted to erica. oh well, i pray that everybody be successful and happy in their lives. i. i love them.
5/3, thanks mom.

Sunday, January 8, 2017

moving my mini-diary from the post-it notes on my desktop here! =)

thursday: final paperwork submitted.
got home with a feeling of "whats next? lets find out"
friday - saturday: back to wtf. prayed. haha
sunday: wtf
monday: obtained. washed bike. whats next? lets find out.
lets do this.
malamnya fuck this pln. fuck this delayed fuse caffeine.
fuck back to wtf.
untung tuesday minimal jam 8 terbangun lha

what the fuck happened, really?
pada tanggal tertentu, dota v7.00 dirilis; berikut serta dgn HDD yg corrupt gegara kemarin tolol sewaktu papamami keluar kota
debate camp, pra, aktivasi paket data, mulai main pokemon go
27/12 28/12, ketemu satpam, ngobrol2, meskipun siangnya uda dapat itu inspiration dan focused moodlet
at least ive been working out
28/12 pagi, well, here i am, fixing my shits

fuck. really. what happened?

08/01, sorenya widopo ngajak ketemuan.
03/01 taught a class at sompo japan, 04/01 reunion with samsengers with regrets on life. sebelumnya 02/01 sempat sparring debate sama reestablished debate side job sama satya.
05/01, 06/01, well, papamami friday pergi ke tanjungbalai, became gajebo, pokemon go, tapi sempat scan beberapa paperwork dan data2. kartu IM3 juga direset ulang starting pointnya. sabtu, jemput papamami, pergi ngobrol sama satya, pergi ke usd, they have their intercomp 07/01
09/01, well, here i am. midnight reflection.
daemonev, vikes, i kind of miss you guys. galau di malam senin gapapalaya. widopo traktir aku kopi starbucks and now i cant sleep. fk.
soalnya 08/01 tadi sorenya there was quite the positivity. well, i sense the full of shitness, but, full of positive vibes. cuma duduk2 aja ngobrol pake bhs inggris terus dopo start prospecting them. memang sih seharusnya shut up after 30mins of advertisement and then start asking questions, but, well, cant argue with the results.
still, like, that god's grace. it felt so real. to him, at least.
hahahaha.
still a shadow.
sent a small text to the father when i got home.
will it work? lets find out. his marketing skills, his innate talent, so to speak. versus my quantification of emotion and aura exuberance.
30/01. it's monday already. well anyway friday i went to campus, socialized a bit, still got back to gaming. 29/01, sunday, i got my energy. somehow. thanks for those caffeine. still failed the morning task this morning, though. but, energy. on sunday.
let's see how things will unfold.

---by the way, i stopped playing pogo sometime around here. chaklan. fuck niantic.
02/02 -- don't ask me what happened in the interim. anyway, started using pomodoro. quite efficient.. somehow. still failed a bit here and there.
03/02 -- i won't make that mistake again.

okay, now underneath this, this one now is...
from sunday 05/02
sunday: getting productive? although failed the morning wakeup, at least implemented punishment
start counting punishment?
and at least sorenya uda mulai olahraga
senin harini gapapalah anggap aja because body really need adjustments after all

BUT FUCK YOU YOU BETTER FINISH THESE ALL ASAP

sabtu? sehari sebelumnya? woke up late, rencana awal sih mau force olahraga tapi kena asma. sorenya, tidur, failed to be productive. gereja terus makan.

jumat? malamnya memang force lembur sih. and quite an almost effective one at that.
kamis malamnya sih gue kena ketiban dpt tugas extra translation dr mami.
jumat paginya, well, one of those common occurences maybe?
OOOHHHH I HAD TO SUB MALAKA!!!
makanya ok siang sore uda jelas liaw
paginya, ya, well, maybe one of those common occurences la

okay, now we are at the next week.
sunday was okay. yeah sunday was okay.
monday was.. i... forgave myself? i guess? because doms after sunday workout?
tuesday, wednesday, thurs....
FFUUUCCCCKKKKK WHAT THE SHIT HAPPENED, REALLY!?
FUCKFUCKFUCKFUCKFUCK
NOT EVEN THE EVENING SUBBING ON THURSDAY NOR THE AFTERNOON SUBBING ON FRIDAY
FUCK THIS.
I HAVENT EVEN TOUCHED AN INCH OF WORKING OUT YET. FUCK.

hey i found the answer.
so it all started from your inability to focus.
and that was saturday 11/02
oh by the way ciu2 called. amah apparently fell from the stairs.
today 12/02 sunday mom and pops are going to visit her. hope that she's fine. everything will be alrite, fingers crossed.

so anyway, it starts from when you run out of gas, then you go to facebook "just to check for notifs". then you go to youtube. then you go back to facebook. then to 9gag.
you see where i'm getting at here?

yesterday, 11/02, saturday, you chose to play some pokemon because you decided that "'ah enough work already, lets go play ahrd and have some fun"
terus kau tiba2 chaklan karena niantic ini kek kontol.
well, good for you, i guess?
bhahahaha. anyway, got home, turned to that cycle yet back again.

ah padahal paginya uda bagus, sempat olahraga sprint 1 ronde pun bahkan. <--- no no no i missed something right here.
saturday night, sunday dawn, what did i do?
nightnya mungkin aku waktu itu lagi chatting sama erica ya?


anyway, its sunday night/monday dawn now
jam 04:52. on the verge of giving up.
but, really, prayers are somehow really effective. didnt even usedpomodoro.
just, woke up (setelah ntah kenapa koq bisa ga jelas), then teach, then got home, then went really productive.
____________________

You know, I keep going back to those memories. Shameful as they are, they.. provided me... sustenance. You.

During my time of battling against depression, there was this one person who provided me tremendous help. I don't know if he/she is a male or a female, I don't even have any idea if he/she is a human; heck, I can't even confirm if it is a living being. This post is dedicated to you, DaemonEV.

13 November 2016
"Well, it sounds to me like you're the Danzo of your debate club, Fred."
"Dan-- ohh! Naruto?"
"Yes. From the sounds of it, you were mostly in opposition to whatever their proposals were and what they had to offer. You contradict most of their ideals and beliefs and gave the impression of being a ruthless senior and a cruel leader. Yet you still hold the best interests for them."
"I--"
"And that's sweet of you, Fred."

That was one when I resorted to online confession and sharing session and found out that great individual.


December 2016
"Still playing? I thought you said you wanted to get your shit together? Why the hell am I still seeing you here?"
"I know, man, sorry, I--"

December 2016
"Hey I actually came across some of your poems out of curiosity. You really do have a talent in linguistics. Your poems were impressive. Why don't you go pro on your blogs?

"Hey, man, I've been thinking. Do you always do this?"
"Do what?"
"Helping people. It is like I had an amazing ment who provided me emotional support when I need it the most
"Do you also blog? Let me advertise your blog. Anything I can help to repay you."
"At least tell me your name and your profile so that I can share your existence with the others."
"No. That's called being human. You feel indebted to me, do the same kindness to others."
DaemonEV, I don't know who you are or what you are, but thank you.


Somewhere in between, he recommended me to publicize my Lumosity results.
____________________